Monthly Archives: May 2011

Such a cliche…

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 As I hauled myself out of bed at 5.40am this morning (Freya’s new, very precise, wake-up time), it struck me that we have become a walking, talking, mummy/toddler cliché. My symptoms: extreme tiredness, a feeling of being constantly on edge and a mind which is in many places at any one time but is very rarely focused. Freya’s symptoms: an overwhelming urge to find danger, an attraction to all household items which aren’t her toys, an insatiable amount of energy. One of us is definitely contributing to the other’s symptoms, and it certainly isn’t me. So, what can we do to overcome this conundrum? How can I find sanity when I know my baby is just about to catch her finger in a cupboard, or trip over her mega bloks or put her head inside the washing machine? I find myself asking mums of older children, will I always be so tired? Will she always be so active? They fail to calm my fears. So I have decided to look into ways to relax with a toddler…or without her as the case may be.

Book a Spa is a website with spa days from £48 all over the UK.

Yoga is a great stress reliever and this website has classes all over the country.

A relaxing bubble bath at the end of the day.

Two hours a week of you time – whether it’s meeting a friend for a drink, going for a swim, looking around the shops, or reading a good book.

Let’s hope it works…

Terrible-not-yet-twos?

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Picture the scene. I give Freya a rice cake, she throws it on the floor. I give her teddy, she throws him on the floor then she throws herself on the floor and starts kicking and screaming. Sounds quite normal…for a two-year-old. But she isn’t two, she isn’t even one-and-a-half! Could my baby being throwing temper tantrums six months early? I found myself googling “17month-old-baby” and “temper tantrums” last night. And for once the internet did actually calm some of my fears. I found countless other mums and dads saying their babies appeared to be throwing tantrums way ahead of time.

It turns out that the terrible twos don’t always happen the day after a child turns two. They can come earlier or later and actually it’s very easy to understand. For Freya I think her frustration lies in the fact she can’t tell us what it is she wants or how she is feeling. And she can’t understand why we have to stop her from doing certain things, like climbing inside the washing machine. I found lots of information in this link.

Tips on how to react and calm a high pressure situation without losing control yourself have helped me feel like next time it happens I’ll be much more in control. I’m looking forward to seeing if they work! I’m also trying not to show my shock when Freya throws herself to the floor with abandon, but it’s hard. Where’s that padded room when you need it?

Here are some more websites and articles with advice on toddler tantrums:

Babyexpert.com

Mumsnet.com

Guardian.co.uk

Askbaby.com