Monthly Archives: July 2011

A pinch and a punch…

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Here’s a confession: This morning I was pinched, scratched and pelted across the face with a teddy bear. This was low-level domestic abuse at the hands of my 19-month-old baby girl. I was trying to brush her teeth, but I may as well have been carrying out some form of water torture. Within seconds the same little blonde girl who blows kisses and cuddles dolly, transformed into a terrible-toddler and our peaceful morning turned toxic. Now, it hurts me both physically and emotionally when she lashes out, not to mention the acute embarrassment when my friends, family or the entire Sainsburys’ queue witness her turn.  But the worst emotion is confusion, because everyone has an opinion on what I should do. Do I…a) pinch her back b) Introduce the naughty step or c) Ignore it and hope it goes away? Well I don’t want to pinch my daughter, we don’t have stairs and I have a feeling this terrible toddler issue isn’t going to go away as quickly as it arrived.

I’ve found some great advice on the Netmums website with lots of ideas involving role play and the need to explain to your toddler why it is wrong to lash out. This feature on Babyexpert.com even gives a positive spin on how a tantrum is actually a sign your baby is growing! Plus lots of tips for coping with public outbursts.  I’m learning that where an adult might need to be told once or twice, a toddler needs to be told several thousand times and staying calm is key. In fact research by Myvouchercodes.co.uk, says toddlers spend an average of two weeks a year in a tantrum…so it looks like I’ve got plenty more fun to come!

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A campaign to remember…

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Last night I opened my latest copy of Grazia and felt tears spring to my eyes within seconds. I can honestly say I have never had such a strong reaction to a feature in my life. It was about a campaign by the magazine in conjunction with stillbirth and neonatal charity Sands, which is
calling for the government to give more funding to research on the possible causes of babies dying during or shortly after birth. I already knew that the UK comes 33rd out of 35 countries in the developed world for its rates of stillbirth. But I didn’t know about the 17 exhibition which has been organised by a man called John Kemp who sadly lost his son Alexander at 33 weeks. After finding the experience so terribly shocking and painful, he decided to raise awareness of the issue by asking other families who had gone through similar experiences to share their stories. The result is a collection of 17 photographs of mums with their bumps, who sadly later lost their babies either at birth or in the days after. 17 is the number of mums who will lose their babies every day in the UK. However much medical advancement we may have had in the last decade, our stillbirth rates
haven’t changed for ten years. It is a painful but very important message. If you want to find out more about the Grazia petition click here.